By Emily Hulbert
“If you give me any problem in America I can trace it down to Domestic Violence. It is the cradle of most of the problems, economic, psychological, educational”-Salma Hayek
When we think of the month October, what comes to mind is falling leaves, pumpkins, and of course, Halloween. Everyone also knows that this month celebrates Soctober and Breast Cancer Awareness. Another topic that October recognizes is Domestic Violence.
Domestic Violence Awareness Month evolved from the first day of unity observed in October 1981 by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The color for Domestic Violence is purple. It represents peace, courage, survival, honor, and dedication to ending violence.
Domestic Violence can be very predictable. There is a cycle of violence that consists of three phases: tension building, an abusive incident, and the honeymoon period. In the tension building phase, signs of abuse begin to appear, such as arguments. The signs of abuse become worse and worse until the abuser finally erupts in the explosive incident phase. Lastly, the honeymoon period is when the abuser tries to minimize or justify the abuse. These phases become dangerous each time the cycle repeats itself.
Domestic Violence is a huge concern worldwide. Since it is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, here are some helpful things to consider:
- If your significant other acts as if they have power and control, you may be in an abusive relationship and you should get help. Examples of power and control are intimidation, emotional abuse, isolation, and many more!
- Domestic abuse is NOT ONLY physical! It could be mental, emotional, or sexual. All forms of abuse are hurtful!
- Have close friends and family members you can confide in. Remember, there is power in numbers!
According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, one in every four women will experience Domestic Violence in her lifetime. If you or someone you know is a victim of Domestic Violence, contact the Safe Center at the Hotline: 516-542-0404 or go to www.thesafecenterli.org. You are not alone!